Did you ever listen to yourself? The other day, I opened the
refrigerator and a container of blueberries fell out all over the floor. After
a moment of complaining while picking up the rogue berries before the dog ate or
stepped on them, my husband asked me why I was wasting my energy getting upset over such a
small thing. Good question I thought and I continued to ponder my thinking and
its outward expression, my speech. What
came to mind is that my mother often reacted to sudden spills and surprises in
that way, although she often calmly negotiated the bigger things. I suspect my
maternal grandmother was the same way. So where do our thoughts and our words
come from? You got it! We pass down our thoughts to our children through what
we say. Most of what we think is not original; it was given to us as a child by
an adult. So listen to yourself, your internal as well as spoken words. That is
what you are teaching your child. Since we are entering the season of
rebirth, there is great potential for change at this time. If you start by paying attention
and then recognize a habit of thinking and speaking that you would like to
change, decide what thoughts you would like to tell yourself and practice them. That internal conversation will be reflected in your speech
and ultimately, your child’s thoughts and words. What would you like to hear?
